There are some lessons that you only understand after learning the hard way. Your parents or teachers may have tried their best to teach them to you, but you didn’t get the lesson until life gave you a hard punch in your face. Suddenly the true meaning of what your parents were trying to teach you became crystal clear.
Other lessons may just have slipped your parents’ minds or maybe they knew that you would only learn them as you navigate through life. Here is a list of seven of these lessons. Try and learn them from us or you will find yourself learning the hard way through life experience.
1. Know Yourself And Be Yourself
The older you get the easier it is for you to understand the importance of knowing yourself and unapologetically being yourself. Knowing yourself deeply is understanding who you at your core. Let’s say you got into an accident. This may have caused you to lose all your material possessions, skills, talents and your network.
What would be left behind? Who are you without all the personas that the world considers to be you?
Knowing yourself at a deep authentic level makes it easy for you to find a meaningful career, a loving partner and authentic friends. This is because you would be clear about the activities and people that match your core values and personality.
Being yourself, on the other hand, involves expressing yourself without caring what others think about you. This, however, could be one of those lessons you will understand by learning the hard way.
2. Use Small Daily Habits If You Want To Make A Life Change
At some point in your life, you will decide to make a major life change. This could be losing weight, learning a new language or stopping a bad habit like smoking. You will then take a massive step such as working out for one hour or throwing out all your cigarettes. Two weeks later you might find yourself declaring that life is too short to stop your bad habits.
Life will teach you that you will be more successful at making a life change through small changes to your daily habits. For example, 10 minutes of learning French daily will get you speaking better French than 1-hour sporadic bursts of learning whenever you feel motivated to. Also, cutting out one bad food from your diet will be easier to maintain than restricting whole food groups.
3. Change Is Inevitable
If you want to have a better quality of life learn to accept and embrace change. Knowing that things will change helps you to fully savor the good times of your life as well as endure the tough times in life. For example, knowing that your children will grow up and leave you helps you spend as much time as you can with them while they are kids.
4. Everything You Want Is Outside Your Comfort Zone
You have probably heard it said a thousand times that life is not a rehearsal. Every single day that you are not living your dream life is wasted. This is why it is important to allow yourself to go after the things that you truly want and desire.
If you experience failures and disappointments in life you may end up pretending not to want a lovely car or a better home or a great lover to avoid disappointments and stay in your comfort zone. However, this leads to an unhappy and unfulfilled life. Learning how to take risks and do uncomfortable things while going after the things you truly desire makes life beautiful and worth living.
5. You Won’t Need That Item One Day
Being a minimalist is one of the most freeing mindsets you can adopt. One lesson that is usually learned the hard way is that you don’t need all those sweaters in your closet. You won’t need that old piece of furniture and no one will play with your child’s old toys.
Getting rid of items you don’t require will free your home from clutter and give you better clarity and peace of mind. Hoarding a lot of items makes it hard to clean properly leading to a dusty and musty home.
The more space you create the airier your home and the freer your mind. Life is much simpler and better with fewer things.
6. The More You Give, The More You Get
A mystical lesson that you won’t learn until you try it is that the more you give the more you get back. This is a principle that works very well in financial management. Most rich people donate at least 10% of their income to charitable causes.
Most religions also advocate donating regularly to less fortunate people in society. Put this principle to the test and donate some of your income for a few months and see the difference it makes in your finances.
7. Always Practice Integrity
Another lesson that you can only get by learning the hard way is that the shortcut always takes longer. And the hard way is the easy way out. Always do the right thing not the easy thing.
For example, imagine you find yourself clearly at fault in a crash but you think no one else witnessed the crash so you drive off to avoid getting charged. Most likely the law will somehow find evidence that you were involved in the crash and charge you anyway. You may even end up with more penalties than if you had owned up to your fault and properly reported the accident.
Take pride in walking with integrity in everything that you do.
Learning The Hard Way Is Sometimes Necessary
It would be wiser for you to learn these lessons from other people’s mistakes but you will probably make some mistakes that will force you into learning the hard way. Just remember that the more you experience, the more you grow so lessons are good.
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